I’m having several of these at once this morning. I have to blog it so that I have it to reference when I find myself getting off course or tempted to.
Beth [yes I am writing to myself]:
Don’t give up the peace in your gut for pleasing others. Others don’t have to live inside of you or think your thoughts or live with your regrets. Also, this is a slippery slope on the way to losing yourself. History has shown that when pleasing others, it can be compared to one with an insatiable appetite and we say they have a “hollow leg”. People prey on those that live to please others and fully take advantage. Bottom line? YOU are worth MORE by being YOU than by aiming to please anyone else. When pleasing and being true to yourself, the ones that matter the most to you ARE happier! By the way, they don’t only matter to you….they’re happier because YOU matter to them! Another note: when you keep trying to please others, the ones that are in your life that would be really good for you are not drawn to you. You know why? Because you’re not being authentic.
Therefore, put the time in to do what you NEED, in order to do what you WANT. You are already equipped with every tool to be able to do this. Don’t think so much. What have some of the women in your life shown you? The seasoned ones? They do what makes them happy with no regard to others. Do the same…do it now…don’t wait another 30 years to feel the freedom to do it after you’ve lived a while longer. Just do it. What others think of it…is their thing to deal with.
You’ve got this. You can do this. You are tired, so rest. Be still and know….that He is God and you are not. Strength and vision come from practicing this. Just walk the path He’s laid before you. Just walk it. Don’t look back to see if you have smiling faces - full of approval and validation. It’s not their path. It’s yours. They have their own path to walk. Besides, it’s depressing and boring as shit, being a spectator in your own path of Life. Everyone has to walk their own path. You’ve got this…walk it.
Love & Grace,